We have one channel of English-language TV and as you can imagine it is mostly a load of old rubbish. There is, however, Strictly Come Dancing ( we're on the series with Gethin ). it made me think about appraising people.
1. It's not an opportunity to show how witty or clever you are.
2. It's not an opportunity to be unkind.
3. Remember the goal is to help people to improve, not just to tell them where they went wrong.
Then it reminded me of Paul's words : Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths but only what is helpful for building others up ( Eph 4:29 )
He doesn't just mean mucky talk, but put-downs, sniping, backchat, all that is not helpful. We all have a long way to go, don't you think ?